Virginity until marriage is the source

of world’s harmony

Communicate to integrate!

中文 Español English हिन्दी اردو العربية Português Русский 日本語 Deutsch Kiswahili Français Tiếng Việt 한국어 Italiano Türkçe Filipino Polski Українська Melayu فارسی Română Indonesia Azərbaycan ภาษาไทย Nederlands Magyarul Ελληνικός Čeština Беларуская עברית Svenska български српски Shqip Hrvatski Հայերեն Afrikaans Dansk Suomi Slovenščina Norsk ქართული Lietuvių Slovenčina Македонски Latviešu Eesti Cymraeg Maltin Gaeilge Íslenska

Virgins until Marriage

dr Z Halat, medical epidemiology consultant, noxologist: We are all neighbours in our global village. Respectful distance between neighbours is the recipe for harmonious relationships. An American philosopher and logician Willard Van Orman Quine once said: no entity without identity. From the history of my nation and my own professional experience I dare to add: identity integrity determines survival. The genuine respect for moral, psychological, and physical integrity of each human person is a prerequisite for the fair integration of humanity.

---

Main Page

Virgins until Marriage

---

---

Virgins until Marriage

- Civil Society Organization

of the African Union

and the European Union

"Virgins until marriage"
e-book

Virginity Magazine

The International Society
for the Scientific Study of Virginity

Acta Virginologica
Journal of the International Society for the Scientific Study of Virginity

Afro-European Sexually Transmitted Diseases Prevention Network

The John Snow International Society for Common Sense in Public Health

dr Halat

contact:

CEMI – ZEMI

Virgins Profitable Skills

Virginity Art & Fashion

Miss Virginity World Contest

Mister Virginity World Contest

Virgins until Marriage - Civil Society Organization of the African Union and the European Union عذراء حتى الزواج -- منظمات المجتمع المدني من الاتحاد الافريقي والاتحاد الاوروبي  Maagde tot het Huwelik - Civil Society Organisasie van die Afrika Unie en die Europese Unie Virgjër deri Martesa - Organizata të Shoqërisë Civile të Bashkimit Afrikan dhe Bashkimi Evropian Կույսեր մինչեւ Հարսանիք - ին Քաղաքացիական հասարակության կազմակերպում Աֆրիկյան Միության եւ Եվրոպական Միության Bakirə qədər nigah - Vətəndaş Cəmiyyəti Təşkilatı Afrika İttifaqı və Avropa Birliyi Birjin arte Ezkontza - Civil Society de Afrikako Batasunaren eta Europako Batasunaren Erakundea Нявінніца да шлюбу - Грамадзянскае грамадства Арганізацыя Афрыканскага саюза і Еўрапейскага саюза Девственици до брак - Гражданско общество Организация на Африканския съюз и на Европейския съюз Verges fins el matrimoni - Organització de la Societat Civil de la Unió Africana i la Unió Europea Virginitat fins al matrimoni - Organització de la Societat Civil de la Unió Africana i la Unió Europea 直到婚姻处女 - 民间社会组织，非洲联盟和欧洲联盟 Djevica do Brak - organizacija civilnog društva od Afričke unije i Europske unije Panice a panny do manželství - Občanská společnost Organizace Africké unie a Evropská unie Jomfruer indtil ægteskabet - en Civilsamfundet Organisationen for Den Afrikanske Union og Den Europæiske Union Maagde tot het Huwelijk - Civil Society Organisatie van de Afrikaanse Unie en de Europese Unie Imb enne abielu - kodanikuühiskonna organisatsiooni Aafrika Liidu ja Euroopa Liit Virgins hanggang Kasal - Civil Society Organization ng African Union at ng mga European Union Vierges jusqu'au mariage - Organisation de la société civile de l'Union africaine et l'Union européenne Virxes ata o matrimonio - Organización da sociedade civil da Unión Africana e da Unión ვირგო სანამ ქორწილი - სამოქალაქო საზოგადოების ორგანიზაცია აფრიკის კავშირის და ევროპის კავშირი Europea Jungfrauen bis Ehe - Zivilgesellschaftlichen Organisation der Afrikanischen Union und der Europäischen Union Παρθένες μέχρι Γάμος - Κοινωνία των πολιτών Οργάνωση της Αφρικανικής Ένωσης και της Ευρωπαϊκής Ένωσης Vyèrj jiskaske Maryaj - Sosyete Sivil Òganizasyon nan Inyon Afriken ak Inyon Ewopeyen an בתולות עד החתונה - חברה אזרחית ארגון האיחוד האפריקאי והאיחוד האירופי Bikirori har aure, aikin jam'iyyoyi ƙungiyar gamayyar afurka da Kungiyar Tarayyar Turai शादी तक कुंवारी - सिविल सोसायटी अफ्रीकी संघ और यूरोपीय संघ के संगठन Szüzek, amíg Házasság - Civil Társadalom Szervezete, az Afrikai Unió és az Európai Unió Meyjar þar Hjónaband - Borgaraleg Samfélag Samtök Afríkuríkja sambandsins og Evrópusambandið Perawan sampai Pernikahan - Organisasi Masyarakat Sipil Uni Afrika dan Uni Eropa Maighdeana go dtí Pósadh - le Sochaí Sibhialta Eagraíocht an Aontas na hAfraice agus an Aontais Eorpaigh Vergini fino al matrimonio - Organizzazione della società civile dell'Unione africana e l'Unione Europea 結婚するまで処女-市民社会組織は、アフリカ連合と欧州連 合の 결혼하기 전까지 처녀 - 시민 사회 조직 아프리카 연합과 유럽 연합의 Jaunavas līdz Marriage - pilsoniskās sabiedrības organizācijas no Āfrikas Savienības un Eiropas Savienība Девици се до брак - граѓанското општество Организација на Африканската унија и Европската унија Merginos iki vedybų - pilietinės visuomenės organizacijos ir Afrikos Sąjunga ir Europos Sąjunga Perawan sampai Pernikahan - Pertubuhan Masyarakat Sivil Kesatuan Afrika dan Kesatuan Eropah Verġni sakemm Żwieġ - Soċjetà Ċivili Organizzazzjoni ta 'l-Unjoni Afrikana u l-Unjoni Ewropea Jomfruer inntil Ekteskap - Civil Society Organization Den afrikanske union og EU تا زمان ازدواج باکره -- جامعه مدنی ، سازمان اتحادیه آفریقا واتحادیه اروپا Dziewice aż do małżeństwa - Organizacja społeczeństwa obywatelskiego Unii Afrykańskiej i Unii Europejskiej Virgens até o Casamento - Organização da Sociedade Civil da União Africana e da União Europeia Virgine pînă la căsătorie - Societatea civilă Organizaţia Uniunii Africane şi a Uniunii Europene Девственницы до брака - Гражданское общество Организация Африканского союза и Европейского союза Девице до брака - Цивилно друштво Организација Афричке уније и Европске уније Panice a panny do manželstva - Občianska spoločnosť Organizácie Africkej únie a Európska únia Device do poroke - Civilna družba Organizacije Afriške unije in Evropsko unijo Vírgenes hasta el matrimonio - Organización de la Sociedad Civil de la Unión Africana y la Unión Europea Wanawali mpaka Ndoa - Civil Society Organization wa Umoja wa Afrika na Umoja wa Ulaya Oskulder tills Äktenskap - Civila samhället organisation av Afrikanska unionen och Europeiska unionen สาวพรหมจรรย์จนกว่าจะแต่งงาน - โยธา สังคม องค์กรของสหภาพแอฟริกาและสหภาพยุโรป Evlilik kadar Bakireler - Sivil Toplum Örgütü Afrika Birliği ve Avrupa Birliği Діви до шлюбу - Громадянське суспільство Організація Африканського союзу і Європейського союзу Trinh nữ cho đến Hôn nhân - Xã hội dân sự tổ chức của Liên minh châu Phi và Liên minh châu Âu Gwyryfon nes priodas - Cymdeithas Sifil Sefydliad yr Undeb Affricanaidd a'r Undeb Ewropeaidd יונגפרויען ביז חתונה - סיוויל געזעלשאַפֿט ארגאניזאציע פון די אפריקאנער פֿאַרבאַנד און דעם אייראָפּעישן פֿאַרבאַנד Virgins until Marriage - Civil Society Organization of the African Union and the European Union

---

Virginity Magazine

---

Contact editor

via CEMI – ZEMI

contact:

CEMI – ZEMI

---

My judgement of reasons why have sex (MJYSEX) Questionnaire

Why would I do it? Is my motivation gross, nasty, fine or great?
And what about his/her motivation: why would he/she do it to me/together with me?
Is his/her motivation gross, nasty, fine or great?

Why did I do it? Was my motivation gross, nasty, fine or great?
And what about his/her motivation: why did he/she do it to me/together with me?
Was his/her motivation gross, nasty, fine or great?

Your judgement will depend on the facts and circumstances of each individual case, first of all on the nature of sexual contact. To mark it use abbreviations:

1. No direct contact sex (= no exchange of body fluids; no exposition of the skin and mucous membranes to other person's body fluids):

TR = listening to sexy talk, TA = talking sexy, TP = parallelly talking sexy; NR = watching nudity for sexual stimulation, NA = exhibiting nudity for sexual stimulation, NP = parallelly exhibiting nudity for sexual stimulation; MR = watching masturbation, MA = exhibiting masturbation, MP = parallelly exhibiting masturbation; IR = being touched in intimate places (felt, groped) through clothing; IA = touching (feeling, groping) in intimate places through clothing; IM = mutual touching (feeling, groping) in intimate places through clothing; DR = being disrobed forcibly, DA = disrobe forcibly; PR = being peeped on (unknowingly being watched in an intimate situation), PA = peeping on (watching someone in an intimate situation without his/her knowledge/permission), FR = being coerced to any other sexually stimulating activity without direct contact (to watch pornography, to masturbate, etc);  FA = coerce to any other sexually stimulating activity without direct contact (to watch pornography, to masturbate, etc);

2. Direct contact sex (involving exchange of body fluids, or exposition of the skin and mucous membranes to other person's body fluids, also via sex toys):

KR = being mouth kissed; KA = mouth kissing; MM = mutual mouth kissing; WR = being wet kissed (saliva exchange, tongue – in – mouth); WA = wet kissing; WM = mutual wet kissing; HR = receptive manual stimulation of the genitals (fingering, hand job), HA = active manual stimulation of the genitals, HM = mutual manual stimulation of the genitals; OR = receptive oral stimulation of the genitals (oral sex, blow job), OA = active oral stimulation of the genitals, OM = mutual oral stimulation of the genitals; BR = receptive manual stimulation of the anus, BA = active manual stimulation of the anus, BM = mutual manual stimulation of the anus; CR = receptive oral stimulation of the anus, CA = active oral stimulation of the anus, CM = mutual oral stimulation of the anus; AR = receptive genital stimulation of the anus (insertive anal sex), AA = active genital stimulation of the anus, AM = mutual genital stimulation of the anus; GR = receptive genital stimulation of the  genitals or.and anus (without inserton, dry sex), GA = active genital stimulation of thegenitals or/and  anus (without inserton, dry sex), GM = mutual genital stimulation of the genitals or/and  anus (without inserton, dry sex), C = coitus (sexual intercourse = penis – in – vagina sex).

To compare differences between motivations you need to judge each out of those you find applicable to your expectations or experiences. Use a 1-to-5 rating scale where: 1.= gross; 2.= nasty; 3.= not sure; 4.= fine; 5.= great.

To compare differences between persons with whom you would have and/or had sexual contacts add their names or initials.

To compare differences over time you need to add the dates of the expected and experienced sexual contacts.

Do not have their own judgement only those who had been completely dehumanized by coercion and Pavlovian conditioning and became other people's sex toys. Do not let sexual predators deprive you of physical, moral and psychological integrity of human person.

---

Please note: the vast majority of the reasons listed below were registered by Dr. Cindy Meston and Dr. David M. Buss from the Sexual Psychophysiology Laboratory at the University of Texas.

---

My judgement of reasons why have sex MJYSEX Questionnaire
(Developed by dr Zbigniew Halat medical epidemiology consultant, noxologist)

	Why would I do it? Why did I do it? Why would he/she do it to me/together with me? Why did he/she do it to me/together with me?	Your judgement  of your own or his/her motivation
		gross 1	nasty 2	not sure 3	fine 4	great 5
001	I thought it would boost my social status.
002	I wanted to get a promotion.
003	The person smelled nice.
004	I wanted to have more sex than my friends.
005	I wanted to welcome someone home.
006	I wanted to return a favor.
007	I wanted to be used or degraded.
008	Someone offered me money to do it.
009	I wanted to show my affection to the person.
010	I wanted to get even with someone (i.e., revenge).
011	It would damage my reputation if I said “no.”
012	I was bored.
013	I wanted a "spiritual" experience.
014	I wanted to lift my partner's spirits.
015	I thought it would help me to fall asleep.
016	I wanted to defy my parents.
017	I wanted to gain acceptance from friends.
018	I wanted to relieve menstrual cramps.
019	I wanted to feel older.
020	I wanted to achieve an orgasm.
021	I saw the person naked and could not resist.
022	I wanted to keep my partner happy.
023	I wanted to try to get a better mate than my current mate.
024	I thought it would help “trap” a new partner.
025	I had no self-control.
026	It seemed like the natural next step in my relationship.
027	I wanted to make a conquest.
028	Someone had told me that this person was good in bed.
029	The person was a good kisser.
030	I wanted to release tension.
031	I wanted to feel connected to the person.
032	I wanted to increase the emotional bond by having sex.
033	The person wore revealing clothes.
034	I was on the “rebound” from another relationship.
035	Everyone else was having sex.
036	I wanted to see what it would be like to have sex with another person.
037	I was attracted to the person.
038	I didn’t know how to say “no.”
039	It was a romantic setting.
040	I wanted to make myself feel better about myself.
041	I wanted to dominate the other person.
042	I was tired of being a virgin.
043	It’s exciting, adventurous.
044	I was under the influence of drugs.
045	It just seemed like “the thing to do.”
046	I wanted to have a child.
047	I am a sex addict.
048	I wanted to put passion back into my relationship.
049	I wanted to see what all the fuss is about.
050	The person demanded that I have sex with him/her.
051	The person had an attractive face.
052	I wanted to get a job.
053	I knew the person was usually “out of my league.”
054	I wanted to feel closer to God.
055	I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.
056	I had not had sex in a long time.
057	I wanted to lose my inhibitions.
058	The person was mysterious.
059	It seemed like good exercise.
060	I wanted to act out a fantasy.
061	I was competing with someone else to “get the person.”
062	The person was intelligent.
063	I didn’t want to disappoint the person.
064	I wanted the attention.
065	I wanted to reproduce.
066	It would get me gifts.
067	I thought it would relax me.
068	I wanted the person to love me.
069	I was physically forced to.
070	The person had beautiful eyes.
071	Because of a bet.
072	I wanted to make someone else jealous.
073	I was drunk.
074	I wanted to say "Thank You."
075	I wanted to experience the physical pleasure.
076	I wanted to breakup my relationship.
077	I wanted to make up after a fight.
078	I wanted to say "I’ve missed you."
079	I wanted to try out new sexual techniques or positions.
080	I felt like I owed it to the person.
081	The person had too much to drink and I was able to take advantage of him/her.
082	I hadn’t had sex for a while.
083	I wanted to get a partner to express love.
084	I was verbally coerced into it.
085	My regular partner is boring, so I had sex with someone else.
086	I wanted to keep warm.
087	The person’s physical appearance turned me on.
088	I felt jealous.
089	I wanted to display submission.
090	It was a special occasion.
091	I wanted to break up a rival’s relationship by having sex with his/her partner.
092	I wanted to relieve “blue balls.”
093	I wanted to make my partner feel powerful.
094	I wanted to gain access to that person’s friend.
095	It would allow me to “get sex out of my system” so that I could focus on other things.
096	I wanted to become more focused on work - sexual thoughts are distracting.
097	I was married and you’re supposed to.
098	I wanted to keep my partner from straying.
099	The person seemed self-confident.
100	I wanted to celebrate a birthday or anniversary or special occasion.
101	I felt insecure.
102	I wanted to feel attractive.
103	I felt guilty.
104	It became a habit.
105	I wanted the person to feel good about himself/herself.
106	I wanted to increase the number of sex partners I had experienced.
107	I was feeling lonely.
108	It just happened.
109	I wanted to get rid of a headache.
110	I/she was ovulating.
111	I realized I was in love.
112	I wanted to feel powerful.
113	I wanted to reaffirm my sexual orientation.
114	It was just part of the relationship "routine."
115	I wanted to be popular.
116	I wanted to breakup another’s relationship.
117	The person had taken me out to an expensive dinner.
118	The person offered to give me drugs for doing it.
119	I wanted the adventure/excitement.
120	I didn’t want to “lose” the person.
121	I wanted to get a raise.
122	I felt like it was my duty.
123	I was slumming.
124	I was pressured into doing it.
125	I wanted to ensure the relationship was “committed.”
126	The opportunity presented itself.
127	I was curious about what the person was like in bed.
128	I wanted to see if I could get the other person into bed.
129	The person was too “hot” (sexy) to resist.
130	An erotic movie had turned me on.
131	The person had a lot of money.
132	I wanted to communicate at a "deeper" level.
133	I desired emotional closeness (i.e., intimacy).
134	My hormones were out of control.
135	It feels good.
136	I wanted to “gain control” of the person.
137	I wanted to make money.
138	I was curious about my sexual abilities.
139	I felt sorry for the person.
140	I was frustrated and needed relief.
141	I was “in the heat of the moment.”
142	I wanted to see what it would be like to have sex while stoned (e.g., on marijuana or some other drug).
143	The person was really desired by others.
144	I wanted to burn calories.
145	I wanted to keep my partner satisfied.
146	I wanted the experience.
147	I wanted to fulfill a previous promise to my partner.
148	The person had a desirable body.
149	I wanted to get out of doing something.
150	The person made me feel sexy.
151	I wanted to feel young.
152	I wanted to say "I’m sorry."
153	I wanted to feel feminine.
154	I thought it would make me feel healthy.
155	I was turned on by the sexual conversation.
156	My partner kept insisting.
157	The person really desired me.
158	I wanted to see whether sex with a different partner would feel different or better.
159	I wanted to test my compatibility with a new partner.
160	I wanted to even the score with a cheating partner.
161	I wanted to release anxiety/stress
162	I wanted him/her to stop bugging me about sex.
163	I wanted to get rid of aggression.
164	I felt rebellious.
165	I wanted to “possess” the person.
166	I wanted to get my partner to stay with me.
167	I wanted to satisfy a compulsion.
168	I wanted to give someone else a sexually transmitted disease (e.g., herpes, AIDS).
169	I wanted to hurt/humiliate the person.
170	I wanted to please my partner.
171	The person had bought me jewellery.
172	I’m addicted to sex.
173	I wanted to forget about my problems.
174	I wanted the pure pleasure.
175	I wanted to get a special favour from someone.
176	The other person was too physically attractive to resist.
177	I was afraid to say "no" due to the possibility of physical harm.
178	I felt obligated to.
179	It’s fun.
180	I wanted to hurt an enemy.
181	It was easier to “go all the way” than to stop.
182	I wanted to prevent a breakup.
183	I wanted to change the topic of conversation.
184	I wanted to feel loved.
185	I was seduced.
186	I wanted my partner to notice me.
187	I wanted to make the person feel better about herself/himself.
188	I wanted to get a favour from someone.
189	I wanted to boost my self-esteem
190	I wanted to enhance my reputation.
191	I wanted to keep my partner from having sex with someone else.
192	The person caressed me.
193	I wanted to express my love for the person.
194	I wanted to help my partner forget about his/her problems.
195	My friends pressured me into it.
196	It was a favour to someone.
197	I wanted to feel masculine.
198	I wanted to submit to my partner.
199	I was curious about sex.
200	I wanted to stop my partners’ nagging
201	The person was famous and I wanted to be able to say I had sex with him/her.
202	I was “horny.”
203	It is my genetic imperative.
204	The person had a great sense of humour.
205	The person was “available.”
206	I needed another "notch on my belt."
207	I wanted to end the relationship.
208	I wanted to get the most out of life.
209	I wanted to avoid hurting someone’s feelings.
210	I wanted to become one with another person.
211	I wanted to say "goodbye."
212	I wanted to brag to friends about my conquests.
213	I wanted to get back at my partner for having cheated on me.
214	The person flattered me.
215	It was an initiation rite to a club or organization.
216	It was the next step in the relationship.
217	My friends were having sex and I wanted to fit in.
218	I wanted to improve my sexual skills.
219	The person was a good dancer.
220	I wanted to punish myself.
221	Someone dared me.
222	I wanted to celebrate something.
223	I was afraid my partner would have an affair if I didn't have sex with him/her.
224	I wanted to experiment with new experiences.
225	I wanted to manipulate him/her into doing something for me.
226	I wanted to feel good about myself.
227	I wanted to intensify my relationship.
228	I was mad at my partner, so I had sex with someone else.
229	It was the only way my partner would spend time with me.
230	I wanted to decrease my partner’s desire to have sex with someone else.
231	I wanted to capture someone else’s mate.
232	I got "carried away."
233	It's considered “taboo” by society.
234	I was trying to “get over” an earlier person/relationship.
235	I could brag to other people about my sexual experience.
236	I wanted to be nice.
237	It was expected of me.
238	I was curious about what it would be like
239	I got carried away by my feelings
240	Most people of my age group doing it
241	Seemed like natural follow on in relationship
242	I was a bit drunk at the time
243	I wanted to lose my virginity
244	I was in love
245	Cannot remember
246	I was given alcohol
247	I was given drugs
248	I did what he/she said because he/she was bigger
249	I did what he/she said because he/she was grownup, and I was young
250	I was pressured into it by his/her words or actions, but without threats of harm
251	I was threatened with physical harm or injury
252	I was physically hurt or injured
253	I was physically held down
254	I was raped
255	I was physically attracted to my partner
256	I was curious
257	I was alone with my partner and it just happened
258	I was alone with my partner and it just happened
259	My friends all were having sex
260	I was feeling romantic or the setting was romantic
261	It made our relationship closer
262	It made me feel grown up
263	My partner made me feel like I had to
267	I was too excited to stop
268	My partner was too excited to stop
269	I was high
270	My partner was drunk
271	My partner was high

---

Control of sexuality

Health Risk Management & Communication:     London, UK +44 208123 7520   *   Cape Town, South Africa +27 21813 6830    *     New York City (Upper East Side), USA +1 646 233 1050  *   Hong Kong SAR, China +852 8197 4650  (mobile phone number)

*  Poland,  in-country 720 014 003 (mobile phone number)